Hey Angela!
Welcome to the Disney Parks Mom Panel. Like you, I am a big planner. I believe with a little pre-planning you can avoid a lot of wasted time and energy later on.
The best place to find a list of attractions suitable for your whole family is the
Attractions page on the Walt Disney World website. This lists all attractions and can be filtered by park, height requirement, thrill level and whether the ride features the FastPass+ options or not.
I have found if you arrive at any park either at or even a little before the posted park opening time you will be able to ride almost every ride you want by 10:00 a.m. I would suggest seeking a
fastpass for the headliner rides you would like to ride twice such as any of the "Mountains" (Space, Splash, Big Thunder), Jungle Cruise, Pirates of the Caribbean, Haunted Mansion, Peter Pan's Flight and Buzz Lightyear's Space Ranger Spin.
I hope this helps with your planning. If you have any other questions please come back and see me.
Wishing you a magical vacation and a pixie-dusted day!
Sue N., IN